Oh. My. Goodness.
For a week now, I’ve seen repost after repost about Christian Cleavage and modesty. I’ve had some of the girls I teach ask me about the articles floating around. I’m going to respond with my two cents, knowing good and well the fury that’s about to flood over me by many of you.
I have read the blog that got this whole craze started. I thought it was good. I thought the author came from a place of genuineness and he supported his thoughts with scripture. Note: I read the “rewritten version” so that’s the only one I can vouch for. I also read another blog posted by a popular Christian magazine site. I have to say i was sort of appalled by some of the points there. But controversy sells just like sex.
What I have to say is no more important, relevant or right. However, one thing about my stance that separates it, is that I am speaking AS a female regarding female modesty.
First, let we as Christ followers be careful from the first warning that we assume the worst in everyone. Biblical fact: all of us are sinners. It can therefore be assumed that everyone does have some “worst” in them. Here me loud and clear…I am all about grace. I love me some grace. I’m thankful for some grace! I’m covered by it, drowning in it, call it amazing and cannot resist it (ugh oh). I absolutely believe in the freedom grace offers – but hear me out – I believe grace offers freedom FROM…, not necessarily freedom TO…(if you feel the urge to quit reading, this is a great place to do so). That’s not what this blog is about. This is also a good place to mention that I’m referring to modesty amongst discipled believers, not unbelievers, or perhaps even new believers (see, I have grace). But I do believe every person that walks this earth battles with their flesh – men AND women.
Can we all – male AND female – take a stand to be responsible for our behaviors. Guys speaking on female modesty try to be gracious by saying they need our help to keep their minds pure. They tell us of their own struggles with visual temptations. But girls, make no mistake we ARE part of the problem. Do we as females not wake up and pick out our very outfits thinking about what, or whose, attention we might capture? Not to shame my own gender, but we too often know EXACTLY what we are doing with our push-up bras and low cut v-necks. We say we do it as competition between other girls – and that is true too. We are females, we can have multiple intentions at once!
I don’t care if it’s mini skirts, mile high heels, leggings or low cut shirts. Females can manipulate the mess out of it. And if sin be in our hearts, I assure you our modesty can, and often will, reflect it.
We all, guys and gals, need to heed the warning to take every thought captive (2 cor. 10:5). Whether the though it lustful or a longing to manipulate; we must confess, repent and strive to be holy – especially in our thoughts. Thoughts lead to words, actions, habits.
There is NOthing shameful about a woman’s body! No matter the size, frame, color or curve – it’s all beautiful in the eyes of the one who created it. It can also be beautiful to others around us, and there is nothing shameful about that. God created man and woman and genesis 2:25 tells us:
Both the man and his wife were naked, yet felt no shame.
Amen! God saw nothing wrong with the body and showing off all you got…originally. See, shame didn’t enter until sin entered. Adam & Eve ate of the forbidden fruit and then suddenly shame takes center stage.
Then the eyes of both of them were opened and they knew they were naked and felt shame. genesis 3:7
And we’ve been dealing with the shame ever sense. The shame of our nakedness. The shame of our consequences. The shame of not being enough. But that was NEVER Gods intention.
Bodies are not shameful and anyone that teaches such a thing is blasphemous. BUT, the way we present our bodies can be shameful. See, bodies are part of the problem when they are exploited and improperly exposed. If you are naive enough to disagree than explain to me why porn is a multi-billion dollar business or sex trafficking is rampant. It ain’t because of the love of personalities or stimulating conversations.
So, where is the modesty line you ask? To be real honest, I think that’s a stupid question. If you have to ask what parts of the female anatomy have the most impact, I fear your issue may be a head one just as much as a heart one. I’m not saying turtlenecks and ankle length blue jean skirts are the only option. I am saying pants with “juicy” on the butt and Instagram selfies of overhead cleavage shots really don’t reflect Gods desire for purity, protection, or any other tasteful quality. We as females can’t really set out to help the foot fetish guy out there, but we can set out to help every other heterosexual, warm blooded male from stumbling. Because guys ARE visual. Girls know what parts of our body CAN be used as a tool of manipulation. How about start with those areas. Baby steps right? Seek Gods word for guidance and pray about other areas He may want you to protect.
Girls, modesty protects you just as much as it protects that visual brother.
Sin is the most devastating issue in our world. Part of that issue, a large part in our day, is sexual sin. Purity, whatever it’s form, is a battle. I am a girl and have been for over thirty years. It hasn’t gotten any easier in that time. Culture tells me if guys do not look at me, my body is the problem. I’ve also been told by some people that if guys do look at me, my body is the problem. The problem is not my body. The problem is my sinful state if I’m presenting my body in a way that grieves God and the sinful state of man in general. Deal with the sin.
Psalm 119:9 – how can a young man keep his way pure, by guarding it according to your word.
That goes for men AND women. A guys whose heart is in tune with God can withstand the thoughts and cease to indulge. A girl whose heart is in tune with God will not present herself in an immodest way.